How to Deal With People Who Annoy You

“If we learn to open our hearts, anyone, including the people who drive us crazy, can be our teacher.” ~Pema Chodron

 

 

Do you have someone in your life that really annoys you?  Does it drain your energy because you either try avoiding them or you ruminating over what they said or did?

There will always be people in your life that annoy you; the trick is to learn how to not let them get under your skin.

In today’s vid I talk about how you can stop letting people annoy you so you can use your time and energy for more productive things!

 

Rather than focusing on how annoying that other person is – try focusing on how they make you feel.  This will give you a much deeper understanding of yourself and what fears/ insecurities that person is bringing up for you. 

Initially it seems that they are making you feel this way but really they are just ‘awakening’ something that was already there.

So get curious about what they are awakening in you… How do they make you feel?  What emotions are coming up?  Can you sit mindfully with those emotions for 5 minutes every time you feel that way? 

You will learn so much about yourself and feel so incredibly empowered as a result!

Once you learn how to use annoying people to your advantage (muahhaha!) then you can begin to feel grateful for them because they are helping you grow in a very deep and honest way.

Dealing with annoying people is super easy if you remember to focus mainly on yourself and your own reaction to them.  If personal growth is your desire this is a great way to expand your horizons to let go of the things that are holding you back in life! Yay!

Want to try out some homework?  Try spending this week journaling on all the emotions and feelings that come up for you when you think about and interact with this really annoying person.  And please feel free to send them over to me!  Yes I want to know so that I can help you overcome this challenge 🙂

 

How do you deal with annoying people in your life?  Please share your best advice down below in the comments section!

Thank you so much for reading and connecting,

 

Vancouver life coach alycia

 

 

 

 

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  1. Justine says:

    I like the empathetic questions you asked her, Alycia! Thinking of someone, annoying, as a “teacher,” who awakens one’s anxiety, feels like a courageous act! 🙂 I’m imagining that keeping track of how an annoying person makes you feel, over time, will be quite insightful. I can understand how this seems hard to do. But this does seem like a helpful and forgiving process; which can release pain and foster growth. Great homework assignment of bravery!! 🙂

    • Alycia Hall says:

      Hi Justine! Yes it is a really insightful practice that builds more self-awareness… it’s challenging though and not always very pleasant 🙂

      good luck and thanks for your comment!

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